“This is part of your growing edge”, she said. The words casually passed from a beloved friend to me for comfort and encouragement as I was navigating a new, life-stretching situation. The words began looping in mind like a song lyric on repeat. More and more, I found myself taking in the words with an affirming yes. “This is part of my growing edge.” I haven’t stopped reflecting on that statement since that day. And even better, I can see it everywhere bubbling to the surface.
This growing edge doesn’t belong only to “them”, “him” and “her”. It belongs to all of us in some capacity in our own way. Now more than ever, each of us, are being invited to look deeper into the thresholds we need to cross individually and collectively. The powerful gift the growing edge offers is a shift of
A picture is worth a 1000 words. It’s true. The classic storyline of the “before and after”. The brain processes imagery at an exceptional speed. Advertisers, marketers, and people selling results know the power punch a single image can produce. The overweight body to toned and thin. Single and alone to an embracing love. Money pains to money gains. A cluttered mess to a feng shui success. A small unspoken spirit to a dazzling out-spoken soul. The list goes on and on. Pictures, phrases and desires plastered everywhere in images attempting to motivate, sell or inspire.
We look at the “after” photos and think. Wow, aren’t they amazing? And yes, the transformational results are. However, the real power started in the “before” picture. The brave soul who stepped forward. Made a new choice. Took the first step. Broke the silence. Began the program. Declined the drink. Went to the gym. Had the hard conversation. Made amends. Formed a commitment. Said yes. Said no. Made a decision to set a new trajectory of self-transformation.
“Have the audacity to be authentic.” This statement feels bold, something brave people say. Or it’s an option we use when the time is right. It can be a permission pass we give ourselves to show up more fully, but only if conditions are right enough to take action. Make the decision. Speak up. Raise our hands, and say, “Yes, count me in!’ or “No, count me out”. Being authentic can also sound like a really nice extra-curricular activity we do when the picture-perfect life has arrived.
Be patient with me… Everyone is on the same roller coaster, we all just have different seats. ~ Original C.Jay Quote ~
I stood shoulder to shoulder with my three brothers and little sister in front of our baby brother’s casket. I remember fighting my tears.